Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Daily Ritual
We live ritually. Every day we get up, brush our teeth, and prepare for the day. Have you ever asked what meaning they give? The potential is to create states of health and well being and sow the seeds of having a good day. However for some of us our rituals are practiced with a heavy heart, resentment or even anxiety over what the day may hold for us.
Why not change your ritual? I don't mean don't go to work. I'm suggesting bringing in a bit of life/happiness/spice/interest into whatever you habitually do. Change your toothpaste, sing to music, visit a different coffee shop, decide to tell a joke, look and smile at people on the bus. It doesn't matter what it is you choose to do. But the results will mean a more awake and engaged you. Now that feels better...
Why not change your ritual? I don't mean don't go to work. I'm suggesting bringing in a bit of life/happiness/spice/interest into whatever you habitually do. Change your toothpaste, sing to music, visit a different coffee shop, decide to tell a joke, look and smile at people on the bus. It doesn't matter what it is you choose to do. But the results will mean a more awake and engaged you. Now that feels better...
Friday, April 23, 2010
Loving Self, Healing Relationships
Can all be fair in love and war? When you hurt the ones you love the most you hurt yourself. You begin to disintegrate on the inside feeling wronged or righted. The fear and guilt that then ensues can often be strong enough to halt what is needed: the healing of relationships.
When you have hurt someone, through intention or not, the first person to seek forgiveness from is yourself. When you have forgiven yourself you can recognize that hurting another came first from your ability to hurt yourself. Make peace with that. From this place of peace healing and possibility can prosper.
When you have hurt someone, through intention or not, the first person to seek forgiveness from is yourself. When you have forgiven yourself you can recognize that hurting another came first from your ability to hurt yourself. Make peace with that. From this place of peace healing and possibility can prosper.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Who Are You Watching?
Most people spend their entire lives watching and being concerned with others. Even when it comes to matters of the self they review themself through the perceived eyes of another or others.
Is this you?
If it is a life of happiness will elude you. Why? You are not at the centre of your life. Instead exists a hologram that that looks and sounds like you but isn't ever truly you. Learn to watch the self. Learn to watch the rise and fall of the breath; the temperature changes in the body and how settled or unsettled you feel inside. Learning to watch the self is the only way to keep the real you at the centre of your life. Keeping you at the centre of your life is the only way to achieve happiness.
Is this you?
If it is a life of happiness will elude you. Why? You are not at the centre of your life. Instead exists a hologram that that looks and sounds like you but isn't ever truly you. Learn to watch the self. Learn to watch the rise and fall of the breath; the temperature changes in the body and how settled or unsettled you feel inside. Learning to watch the self is the only way to keep the real you at the centre of your life. Keeping you at the centre of your life is the only way to achieve happiness.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Remembering Who You Are
Sometimes we can feel washed up, helpless and alone.
Last week I walked along the beach where thousands of jellyfish had been left by the tide to dry up and die on the sand. Physically they could do nothing about it. They had no hands or feet to lift themselves back to the water. There were no family, friends, colleagues or professionals to pick them up and help them in their time of need.
We are so lucky as a species. We have the capabilities of picking ourselves up. Within the reach of everyone is family, a friend, a colleague or a professional that is capable of helping in times of need.
If you are feeling alone and washed up in life remember that within you is the ability to pick yourself up and start living again. This is part of your birth right as a human being. If finding this ability seems to difficult ask for help. It's amazing what a pair of helping hands can do.
Last week I walked along the beach where thousands of jellyfish had been left by the tide to dry up and die on the sand. Physically they could do nothing about it. They had no hands or feet to lift themselves back to the water. There were no family, friends, colleagues or professionals to pick them up and help them in their time of need.
We are so lucky as a species. We have the capabilities of picking ourselves up. Within the reach of everyone is family, a friend, a colleague or a professional that is capable of helping in times of need.
If you are feeling alone and washed up in life remember that within you is the ability to pick yourself up and start living again. This is part of your birth right as a human being. If finding this ability seems to difficult ask for help. It's amazing what a pair of helping hands can do.
Saturday, March 06, 2010
Energy
Many people want to know how to get more energy.
Feeling like you have vitality- energy- is a natural state of being. If you want more begin by looking at where you already spend energy in daily life. Everything you do equals energy spend. Free spend is not the same as wise spend. Ask yourself, "Do I spend my energy wisely?" and begin an open and honest audit of your energy spend. Ask yourself, "What did I do? Where and what quality was my thinking? Where did I put my effort?" Most importantly open ask yourself if your energy was spent in the areas of your life that match your personal priorities and values. Continually carrying out tasks and living a life that feels meaningless to you is guaranteed to leave you feeling drained and weary. If you realise that you do spend a large amount of energy (time, effort, resource) on something that ultimately does not make you feel good, try to bring some meaning into it or investigate how you can change the situation. Spending your energy on that which matters to you equates to wise spending. In energy terms wise spend equals payback in feelings of well being and more sustained energy levels.
Feeling like you have vitality- energy- is a natural state of being. If you want more begin by looking at where you already spend energy in daily life. Everything you do equals energy spend. Free spend is not the same as wise spend. Ask yourself, "Do I spend my energy wisely?" and begin an open and honest audit of your energy spend. Ask yourself, "What did I do? Where and what quality was my thinking? Where did I put my effort?" Most importantly open ask yourself if your energy was spent in the areas of your life that match your personal priorities and values. Continually carrying out tasks and living a life that feels meaningless to you is guaranteed to leave you feeling drained and weary. If you realise that you do spend a large amount of energy (time, effort, resource) on something that ultimately does not make you feel good, try to bring some meaning into it or investigate how you can change the situation. Spending your energy on that which matters to you equates to wise spending. In energy terms wise spend equals payback in feelings of well being and more sustained energy levels.
