Can all be fair in love and war? When you hurt the ones you love the most you hurt yourself. You begin to disintegrate on the inside feeling wronged or righted. The fear and guilt that then ensues can often be strong enough to halt what is needed: the healing of relationships.

When you have hurt someone, through intention or not, the first person to seek forgiveness from is yourself. When you have forgiven yourself you can recognize that hurting another came first from your ability to hurt yourself. Make peace with that. From this place of peace healing and possibility can prosper.

Labels: healing relationships, hurt, loved ones, peace, self

Most people spend their entire lives watching and being concerned with others. Even when it comes to matters of the self they review themself through the perceived eyes of another or others.

Is this you?

If it is a life of happiness will elude you. Why? You are not at the centre of your life. Instead exists a hologram that that looks and sounds like you but isn't ever truly you. Learn to watch the self. Learn to watch the rise and fall of the breath; the temperature changes in the body and how settled or unsettled you feel inside. Learning to watch the self is the only way to keep the real you at the centre of your life. Keeping you at the centre of your life is the only way to achieve happiness.

Labels: body, breath, happiness, others, self, watching

Sometimes we can feel washed up, helpless and alone.

Labels: alone, colleague, family, friend, help, helpless, Human Being professional, jellyfish, washed up

Many ask to find ways to get more energy. Having energy is a natural state of being. If you want more energy look at where you spend it freely in daily living. Everything you do in life spends energy. Spending freely is not the same as spending wisely. By stopping and asking yourself, "Do I spend my energy wisely?" you can begin to understand where your energy is being used. Audit your energy spend: what did you do, where was your thinking, where did you put your effort? Your energy may be the most precious resource you ever have. Spending it wisely creates a payback to you. Spending it freely and not wisely creates only payout. Using your energy via effort to do this exercise now based on your day so far will give you the information you need to create more payback. With information you can then make choices to gain more energy. There are always other ways to get things done or other ways of Being whilst getting things done.

Labels: Being, energy, spend