Can all be fair in love and war? When you hurt the ones you love the most you hurt yourself. You begin to disintegrate on the inside feeling wronged or righted. The fear and guilt that then ensues can often be strong enough to halt what is needed: the healing of relationships.

When you have hurt someone, through intention or not, the first person to seek forgiveness from is yourself. When you have forgiven yourself you can recognize that hurting another came first from your ability to hurt yourself. Make peace with that. From this place of peace healing and possibility can prosper.

Labels: healing relationships, hurt, loved ones, peace, self

Most people spend their entire lives watching and being concerned with others. Even when it comes to matters of the self they review themself through the perceived eyes of another or others.

Is this you?

If it is a life of happiness will elude you. Why? You are not at the centre of your life. Instead exists a hologram that that looks and sounds like you but isn't ever truly you. Learn to watch the self. Learn to watch the rise and fall of the breath; the temperature changes in the body and how settled or unsettled you feel inside. Learning to watch the self is the only way to keep the real you at the centre of your life. Keeping you at the centre of your life is the only way to achieve happiness.

Labels: body, breath, happiness, others, self, watching